International schools are the most popular educational platform for families in global transition yet they are often ill-equipped to address the challenges associated with mobility. As places with high turnover, transitions affect everyone, whether you are the one leaving, arriving or staying, whether you are local or international and whether you are a student, family member or staff member.
Managing mobility is the responsibility of every international school but knowing where to start can be overwhelming.
In this live two-part webinar series you will:
Cultivate awareness around mobility’s impact upon yourself, staff, parents and students and how that experience shapes how you and they relate to others
Develop a common language to enhance communication and understanding of these issues
Further your knowledge of international mobility research well-being and learning
Be equipped with practical tools and strategies to build or enhance transitions programming at your school
You will receive a Research Bibliography and Recommended Resources to continue your knowledge transformation
Ellen Mahoney is the founder of Sea Change Mentoring and an alumna of International schools. Sea Change Mentoring delivers transitions-informed consulting services, program audits, and social-emotional learning curriculum designed just for international schools. She is the only person in the international school community who is certified in youth mentoring supervision which she earned at Fordham University’s School of Social Work. Clients include schools like Singapore American School and the American School of the Hague and organizations like Pearson and the IMF. She was a co-founding member of Safe Passage Across Networks (SPAN) and a 2013 David Pollock Scholar.
Jane Barron (BA Dip Ed, MEd) – Founder of Globally Grounded, youth intercultural transition specialist and culturally responsive educator, writer, speaker and consultant to local and international schools. Driven to improve emotional, social and educational outcomes for cross-cultural learners, Jane equips schools to support and empower culturally diverse learners, their parents and those who educate them. A Safe Passage Across Networks (SPAN) steering committee member and 2017 Parfitt Pascoe Writing Residency Scholar, Jane’s writing has been published in International Teacher Magazine, International School Magazine and The International Educator.
Each session will be 1 hour.
Date & Time:
PART ONE – Monday Nov 20, 2017 13:00 CET
Laying the Foundations for an Effective School-Based Transition Program
PART TWO – Thursday Nov 30, 2017 07:00 CET
Building an Effective School-Based Transition Program at Your School
USD 149 for two sessions
We are big believers in collaboration. If you are unable to attend one session, a colleague from your school may take your place for the other session.
Registration closes November 13 so book now as places are limited
This week I am honoured to be writing over at I Am A Triangle’s (IAAT) brand new website. What began almost four years ago as a Facebook group of 30 ‘Triangles’ has now grown into a community of over 15,000 people who have lived in various cultures and countries, whether as children, teens or adults.
Launched on World Infinity Day – August 8th (8/8) – it seemed fitting that my first official contribution to the IAAT website and community should focus on launching students into a new school with confidence…To Infinity and Beyond…
Starting at a new school can be both exciting and terrifying for any student. Whether it’s your child’s first, fourth or fifteenth move, switching to a new school is never easy. With so many unknowns, silent questions play on the minds of new students in the lead up to that first day. For Third Culture Kids* (TCK) moving from one culture to another, there is often the added unknown of cultural differences and expectations, which can shake their self-confidence and make walking into the new school even more daunting.
As an educator and youth intercultural transition specialist currently based in Australia, I have the privilege of equipping and supporting students and their families as they navigate the triumphs and trials of transition to new cultures across the globe. I’m regularly asked questions about the new educational culture into which they are about to venture. The questions asked by students vary from those on the minds of their parents. Students rarely ask about subjects offered or how many kids are in a class nor the facilities provided or location of the school. Curious to know what they do ask? Read the full story…
We’re about to jump in the car to begin our family Winter vacation. I’ve just sent off the final draft of a book I’m co-authoring and my own words are ringing in my head…so-much-so that I’m reblogging them here, for my benefit as well as yours.
Although it’s now the Southern Hemisphere Winter and the Northern Hemisphere Summer, the challenge remains the same – unplug and connect.
It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas! That means the holiday season is just around the corner. Traditionally it’s a time when we get together with those we love…or those we have to love. Many will take time off work. Some will holiday at home. Others will holiday far away. Several will remain in their host country. Wherever in the world you are this holiday season, I encourage you to Unplug and Connect – really connect.
You’ve heard it before – we are more connected than ever. In fact, I take my hat off to all those who lived abroad pre-1990s. Technology has made moving to the other side of the world so much easier because we can maintain relationships with friends and family in real time. Our reliance on technology, however, can take us away from what it right in front of us. People. Places. Perspectives. Life.
How do you feel about words? Do you prefer the written word or the spoken word? Or both? Do you gravitate towards words of one language or multiple languages? I find words to be very powerful. They can build up or they can tear down. My brain prefers the written word, in English, yet I am mesmerised by the sound of words spoken in another language. In this blog post, I share with you some words that have been resonating with me recently – words for a fulfilled global life.
As part of my Parfitt Pascoe Writing Residency responsibilities, I’ve been reviewing my notes and the presentations from the recent Families in Global Transition Conference (FIGT) I attended and presented at, in The Hague. I’m sure you can imagine, with 288 delegates from 36 countries, a full 3-day schedule, 70 Presenters and way too many sessions to count on all my fingers and toes, a lot of words were used. And that’s before I include the conversations that occurred outside the structured program.
All of these words exemplify one of my new favourite words – Epignosis, a Greek word meaning ‘understanding and believing what you know in a personal way.’ It is knowledge gained through personal experience and I am so grateful for the FIGT community’s willingness to share their words and perspectives with me, with us.
Gleaned throughout the FIGT Conference, some of the words that follow were spoken, either during presentations or in conversation. Other words were written – projected on huge screens, chronicled in blog posts, tweeted or recorded in emails post-conference. All of them have impacted me. Some have challenged, others have comforted. Some have encouraged, others have inspired. Some have prompted soul-searching, others galvanised action.
I share these words with you in the hope that they may help you to live a fulfilled global life, whether that be abroad or in your ‘home’ culture.
232 million people worldwide are living outside their country of birth. Naomi Hattaway (Founder of I am a Triangle)
In 2015, there were 8000 English-medium international schools serving more than 3.5 million students. Anastasia Lijadi (Research Fellow at University of Macau)
Fear is an illusion. It exists as an emotion but it’s our minds that make it a reality. Sebastien Bellin (Survivor of the 2016 Brussels Airport attack)
The more quality you have in your life, the more you have to build on in challenging moments. Sebastien Bellin
Third Culture Kids (TCKs):
We TCKs know what loneliness is. Especially what I call ‘inflicted loneliness’ as in, it’s not our choice, it’s inflicted on us. Moving to a new school and standing in the playground alone, wishing it was 2 months down the line, when you know things will be different. Lonely because you are different and until ‘they’ accept you and get used to you; you have to wait. You can always try and join is but the knock backs can be hurtful. Student perspective from Anastasia Lijadi’s research
Q: Are you aware of the emotions of the friends you’ve left behind?
A: I hadn’t considered that to be honest. Asked by an Adult and answered by a Student at SPAN Pre-Conference
Having a student buddy e-introduced before I arrived at a new school really helped me to understand the school & its expectations. Student perspective from SPAN Pre-Conference
When we are talking about TCKs and supporting them, we really need to think more holistically and look at the entire family. Kristin Duncombe (Psychotherapist and Author of Trailing: A Memoir)
Look at what is already working and build on that, even if it’s just a tiny piece. Connect your child to the one thing that is okay amongst all the changes. Kristin Duncombe
Raising three third culture kids, I have always believed that one of the most powerful tools I give them is their experience with diversity. To them, diversity is ‘normal.’ Tone Delin Indrelid (PPWR Scholar, Writer and Blogger at https://theothertrail.me )
Recognizing that your child’s identity may be different from you own is one of the most important things parents of global and mobile kids need to get their heads around because when you raise your kids in a way that is different from the way you have been raised, in a country that is different from the country you have been raised in, kids don’t turn out to be just little photocopies of yourself. They turn out to be people with different identities. Kristin Duncombe
Returning to the place of loss is an important part of the healing and integration process. Maria Lombart (Adult TCK with 6 countries, 4 continents and 8 distinct cultures in the bag)
Let’s try to re-imagine school admissions as a learning moment – after all we are a school and we believe in learning and the families need to learn is this the right place for my child? David Willows(Director of Admissions and Advancement, International School of Brussels)
We need to be competitively collaborative. We need to keep our students, parents and staff first. After all, it is our ethical responsibility. Ellen Mahoney (SPAN Program Co-Chair & Founder of Sea Change Mentoring)
For me as an educator, the biggest take away was centred around the baton idea. We have a responsibility not to focus so much on ‘our’ program but to actually look at our community – the transition in and the transition out and our duty to work with other communities to ensure our Tribe are looked after when they leave our community. Claudine Hakim (Dean of Students, International School of London, Surrey)
But my child is a TCK at a local school. How do I get their school to understand the challenges of mobility they are working through, without being perceived that I think ‘my Johnny’ is the centre of the universe? Many parents (names withheld for privacy)
Tribes and Community:
Every single tribe has its own mindset because of the circumstances and the journey they have lived. Marielle de Spa (Global Talent Advisor and Strategist at TCKapital)
We need three things to build a Tribe: a smile, an open mind and patience. Naomi Hattaway
I have experiences and wisdom to share with my community. I am what I am because of who WE are together. Naomi Hattaway
The sojourn and furlough model favoured by military and missionary organizations may have unfavourable identity implications for TCKs. Katia Mace (University of Cambridge – based on her recent dissertation ‘TCK Identity: Variables that make a difference’)
Use re-entry as an opportunity to redefine who you are now and what you want your life to be like going forward no matter where in the world you are. Enjoy the journey! Cate Brubaker (Founder and Chief Re-Entry Re-Launcher at Small Planet Studios)
Languages unite. They do not divide. They bring families together. Rita Rosenback (author and family language coach at www.multilingualparenting.com)
Language is essential for communication…by using the Cross-Cultural Kid (CCK) term, we give room to look at both what is shared and what is different in each experience. Ruth van Reken(Author of Third Culture Kids: Growing up Among Worlds and Founder of Families in Global Transition)
THE major life skill is to take the perspective of others. Dr Anne Copeland (Clinical Psychologist and Executive Director, The Interchange Institute)
After the FIGT Conference, I went back to my routine knowing, with relief, that my work as a TCK researcher was valued more than I can possibly imagine. Anastasia Lijadi (Research Fellow, University of Macau)
I’m glad to have been welcomed with such open arms to my first FIGT Conference. I’m already looking forward to the next one being in Southeast Asia so that a different demographic can be included in this incredibly valuable discussion. Warren Macleod (Assistant Director of Odyssey, International Schools Consortium)
I am filled with encouragement and hope at the thought of a community of people who will be at the forefront, leading the world into the increasingly global future. We can demonstrate to the world that it is possible to live in peace with one another, to celebrate each other’s differences, to work through the challenges of mobile people and come out stronger at the other end. Hannele Secchia (HR Manager, Bingham Academy, Addis Ababa, Ethiopia)
Gary Chapman, in his book Love as a Way of Life likens words to being either bullets or seeds. Obviously bullets harm, as do words delivered with superiority or condemnation. Seeds, however, planted in fertile soil, nourished and nurtured, bear good fruit. So too do words, delivered with love, sincerity, good will and genuine care. The words contained in this blog post were and are delivered as seeds. May they bear much good fruit and contribute towards a fulfilled global life, for you and those with whom you live and work, whether abroad or at ‘home’.
Have you ever dreamed of visiting a distant land after seeing it captured in a documentary, cheering on your favourite sporting team in real life or seeing a certain acclaimed artwork or salient sculpture in person? Recently I fulfilled one of those long-held dreams. Viewing Auguste Rodin’s ‘The Thinker’ (Le Penseur) sculpture in Paris has been ticked off my Bucket List! Walking into the Grande Palais exhibition marking the centenary of Rodin’s death, there he was, larger than life – thinking. Quietly studying his features, it struck me how intentionally reflective he appeared and I immediately began making connections with my own life and what I had learned from the Families in Global Transition Conference (FIGT) in The Hague just a few weeks before.
Rodin’s most iconic sculpture, Le Penseur, is more contemplative than other famous sculptures such as the commemorative Statue of Liberty in New York or Christ the Redeemer in Rio de Janeiro. It came into being after Rodin had sculptured ‘The Gates of Hell’. You may notice some similarities between the man at the centre of ‘The Gates of Hell’ and ‘The Thinker’. Rodin used his past experience and understanding to create this new work, adding more detail to every facet of The Thinker’s body, to capture this quintessential introspective moment. Walking through the gallery in Paris that day, I observed that it was full of miniature plaster and clay sculptures, each one building on the previous until Rodin had it just right before sculpting in bronze or marble. I confess to being a little disappointed when I first saw this Le Penseur because it was in plaster and not the bronze I had hoped to see. Understanding his creative journey, however, I am now thrilled that I saw one of his early original works in progress – a stepping stone that led to the full realisation. Also throughout the exhibition were drawings depicting many of the sculptures from different perspectives, using a variety of techniques and mediums such as ink pen or pencil. “Seeking the sources of a renewed sculpture in the very process of developing form became a constant practice for Rodin. This approach, which was entirely original at the time, would go on to become extremely widespread among future generations of artists,” said the exhibition program. It was clear that Rodin valued the reflective thinking process and looking at things from different perspectives to improve his craft, creativity and the end result.
I too, believe in the power of reflection and looking at things from different perspectives. As a student I found reflective thinking helped me to learn from my mistakes and make sense of the world so as a teacher, I made it a priority to help my students develop their reflective thinking – both of their school-work and their personal life. As a parent, I do the same, every evening in fact, as we sit around the dinner table and reflect on our day, celebrating and learning from what was, in the hope of enriching was is and what will be. As an adult, I make time to reflect on my spiritual, personal and professional life and as a youth intercultural transition specialist, my work revolves around helping students to reflect on their past in order to enhance and bring meaning to their present and future.
That’s what is so powerful about reflection. It’s about looking back at what worked and what didn’t, why, what was learned and how this can be applied to the status quo, in order to adapt, improve and aspire. As I stood before Rodin’s sculpture I was taken back to my MEd studying days and the work of John Dewey – yes, the same guy who gave us the Dewey system for library cataloguing. Often seen as the father of reflective thinking, he maintains there are four elements for effectiveness:
It is a meaning-making process
It is intentional and disciplined
It occurs in community, in interaction with others
It requires the thinker to value the personal and intellectual growth of themselves as well as others. *
Standing in the Grande Palais, such reflective thoughts soon moved to revelation as I realized this is exactly what we did at the FIGT Conference a few weeks before. This year’s theme was Building on the Basics: Creating Your Tribe on the Move. Thanks to the program carefully crafted by Daniela Tomar, we intentionally went back to investigate the terms, concepts and frameworks associated with families in global transition, which have been developing for over 60 years. As our world continues to change, it was, and is, important for us to acknowledge those foundations and to build upon them in order to gain understanding whilst embracing the change. By doing so we remain relevant and effective to the very people with whom we work, live and educate. What resulted was a gathering of “researchers, educators, counsellors, relocation specialists, artists, humanitarians, entrepreneurs, students and parents”** to make meaning in an intentional and disciplined way, as a community, valuing the personal and intellectual growth of others and ourselves.
Ruth van Reken’s presentation during the ‘Finding Your Language on the Move’ panel was a meaning-making process for me. Stepping through the timeline of terms used to define and describe children in cultural transition, Ruth clearly depicted how our world has and continues to change. I was struck by the strong legacy that has increased our awareness and understanding and upon which we now build. Thanks to Dr Hill-Useem’s ‘Third Culture’ in the 1950s, David Pollock’s ‘Third Culture Kid’ (TCK) and Norma McCaig’s ‘Global Nomad’ in the 1980s, Ruth’s own ‘Cross Cultural Kid’ in the early 2000s, Michael Pollock’s recently updated ‘Third Culture Kid’ and more terms along the way, we have been given a language which helps identify, understand and support the many variations of kids crossing cultures in the 21st Century. Reflective thinking.
Intentional and Disciplined:
One of the reasons I attended my first FIGT conference was to hear the latest research on students in global transition. The research findings tabled at FIGT are methodologically robust, relevant and insightful. I rely on them to inform my work. This year, I particularly appreciated the intentional and disciplined research into
the educational experiences of TCKs attending international schools presented by Anastasia Lijaldi,
Katia Mace’s study of TCK Identity and the variables that make a difference and
Ann Baker Cottrell’s investigation of the terms associated with Globally Mobile Children over time by asking the question, are they one tribe or many?
Each paper deserves their own blog post but all of them used the past to inform their research questions and build upon their understanding of the present and future, which in turn helps me/us too. Reflective thinking.
During the FIGT conference I tweeted the statistics – “288 delegates, 36 countries, 3 days, 3 keynotes, 7 Early Bird sessions, 70 Presenters, 33hrs of inspiration, countless connections”. Thanks to Twitter’s 140 character limit, what I didn’t have room to tweet was the 14 kitchen table conversations, 6 Ignite sessions, 2 panel discussions and the hours upon hours of dialogue, debate and deliberation that occurred outside the structured program. FIGT is a place where discussion is valued. Whether it’s the three days of the FIGT Conference, the Facebook group for FIGT Alumni or the regular FIGT Webinar’s, the perspectives of others are appreciated and respectedand I come away from each interaction having learned something new. Reflective thinking.
Valuing the personal and intellectual growth of ourselves and others:
A prime example of this element of reflective thinking occurred on the last morning of the FIGT Conference, when over 60 people arose early, and enthusiastically joined the Safe Passage Across Networks (SPAN) Steering Committee to learn about the vision and what transpired at the inaugural SPAN Pre-Conference just days before. It was a time to review, debrief and to hear the perspectives of others not present on that historic day. SPAN delegate Claudine Hakim represented the thoughts of many when she spoke of her realisation that as educators, “we have a responsibility not to focus so much on ‘our’ program but to actually look at our community – the transition in and the transition out and our duty to work with other communities to ensure our Tribe are looked after when they leave our community.” Jody Tangredi, not present on the Pre-Conference day, asked important questions about SPAN’s organisational development that had us all thinking deeply and practically. Reflective thinking.
Back to Paris – I had no idea that seeing one of my favourite sculptures in person would evoke such deep thinking! Rodin’s life’s work was based on the reflective thinking process and resulted in him being praised as the man who brought sculpture back to life. “Each generation of audiences and creators view his work in a new way, and a different Rodin is discovered with each passing decade. Far from relegating him to a bygone era, these new perspectives constantly enrich the way his art is understood,” states the Rodin Exhibition program. In a similar way, the FIGT Conference helped me to view the work of our global transition pioneers in a new way, appreciate the intentional and disciplined approaches of our current researchers, use the perspectives of others to enrich my own life and those with whom I live, work and educate whilst also valuing the intellectual growth of others. Thank you FIGT for creating a safe space for me to think reflectively so that like Le Penseur, who appears to be on the verge of putting his ideas into motion, I am now propelled to put my thoughts into action.
* Rodgers, C. (2002) Defining Reflection: Another Look at John Dewey and Reflective Thinking, Teachers College record, v104, n4, p842-866
The train departed Dordrecht Station promptly at 8:37am. Taking her seat beside the rain-spattered window, a silent yawn escaped. She had barely slept a wink the night before, in anticipation of the week ahead. By the time the sun set on today, they would be reunited, in Paris. How did it come to this?
The Netherlands landscape raced by – farmhouses with red-pitched roofing, long lines of green pastures punctuated by water dikes, dark brown soil arranged by the plough in perfect parallel lines, windmills with their giant slow-spinning fans dotted abstractly over the distant plains, cattle grazing, sheep resting and a tall chestnut horse being put through his paces in a dressage arena. All the while her mind is elsewhere, in a land and time far away.
The land – Australia. The time – 2009 and the phone call that changed everything. A job opportunity in Singapore meant she, her husband and their little family would be leaving the home they had just built in paradise, for the unknowns of Asia. She recalled the tears that flowed when she walked into her boss’ office to break the news. She would be leaving her dream job and would not be able to work in her new host country. Sitting in the crowded train carriage, she now realizes that her boss is the reason this reunion is occurring.
The ‘She’ is me. In a few short hours I will have travelled through three different countries (still difficult for my Australian mind to comprehend) to spend a week in Paris with two girlfriends, who, less than ten years ago, I had no idea existed. I am reflecting on a very treasured friendship and how incredible it is that three women, born in three different continents can meet, instantly connect, do life together for less than one year, and somehow remain lifelong friends. No. Not merely friends, soul mates.
It’s a funny thing – international friendships in the expatriate or ‘Third Culture’. A connection is made very quickly. There’s an intensity that is perhaps absent in the early stages of friendship in a monoculture. Driven by the knowledge that we don’t know how long it will be before one of us leaves the location and a need for companionship, support and a sense of belonging when the usual support mechanisms are not available, we dive in. If successful, it is rich, it is real and it is raw. This is how it was for us in Singapore.
It all began thanks to ‘The Network’. My boss sent an email to an associate of his who had recently moved to Singapore. The subject read, ‘Jane meet Jane’ (I know, how funny that we both have the same name…and as we would soon discover there were a lot more similarities besides). A brief introduction followed and the friendship was forged via email, before I had even set foot in the land that would soon capture my heart and mind. On the other side, Jane’s husband had worked with Vanessa’s husband. They introduced their wives to each other over dinner during the ‘Singapore Discovery Visit’ of Vanessa’s family. There was an instant connection. People know people and when you move to a new location, those networks are lifelines. And if you don’t know people, groups such as I am a Triangle have people who do. Living abroad somehow creates a desire to come alongside others, even if you’ve never met, providing practical information, moral support and allowing one person’s stumbling blocks to be another person’s stepping stones. Little did I know that one email would help me to find soul mates.
Our first face-to-face meeting was in the upstairs café of a busy Singapore Mall. With views of the Botanic Gardens beyond, the three of us found common ground very quickly. Interests, values and faith were, and are, the anchors. Personalities, a sense of adventure and a lot of laughter became the sails. We laughed, we cried, we cheered and we sighed. Six months on, we would be celebrating milestone birthdays as if we’d known each other since birth and nine months later one of us would depart Singapore’s shores – a familiar scenario for international friendships.
It takes nine months for a precious baby to be fully formed inside its mother’s womb. It took nine months to develop a treasured friendship that now sees us meeting in Paris to celebrate another milestone birthday. We’ve come from across the globe, as often happens with friendships nourished whilst living abroad – Vanessa from the UK, Jane from Singapore (yes, she’s still there and sure she’s going to be the last one left to turn out the lights) and me from Australia. Authentic friendships can span the globe.
The Train Conductor announces that we will soon be arriving at Paris’ Gare du Nord Station. My mind jumps forward to the present. In the case of Vanessa, we go years now without seeing each other but when we do, we pick up where we left off. No small talk, no delicate dipping of toes at the water’s edge. We just jump right in…and make quite a splash! In the case of Jane, we see each other more often – once or twice a year so the conversations can be more surface, initially. They don’t stay there for long though as we dive down to the bottom of the ocean and explore the many treasures to be found there. From parenting to politics, religion to retirement, soul-searching to sex – nothing is off limits! We’re not always in agreement but we do appreciate each other’s perspectives. I’m looking forward to more of these conversations in the week ahead, far beyond what our social media platforms of choice can ever hope to deliver.
As the train pulls into Platform 5, I can barely contain my excitement about seeing these cherished friends and sharing the next week with them. There has been plenty written about how to make friends whilst living abroad and in recent times, about finding your tribe on the move. In fact, the whole reason why I am in Europe already is because I have been attending the Families in Global Transition (FIGT) Conference in The Hague and facilitating a Writers’ Forum on that exact topic – Connecting with your Online Tribe Through Blogging Whilst You’re Repatriating. The theme of this year’s FIGT Conference was “Building on the Basics: Creating Your Tribe on the Move”. This is my second year at the FIGT Conference and it was another reminder of the powerful connections and friendships made with people on the move. I have enjoyed and benefitted from connecting with friends made last year, friends and associates whom I’ve only known online until now and new friends and associates from across the globe. Making friends and finding your tribe on the move is being written about and spoken about because it is so important. Friends made abroad become family. They can help you feel at home, bring balance and create a sense of belonging that is innate in each of us.
A wise person once wrote, “It’s the friends we meet along life’s road who help us
to appreciate the journey.” This is true of all my friendships – old and new. What a blessing and what a privilege.
So what about you? What is your experience of making friends on the move? How have those friendships developed? How has it impacted your life? I’ve obviously written from my perspective as a woman but I’d love to hear from the men reading this post. What is your experience of making friends whilst living abroad?
Today, it is a privilege to introduce my special guest, Hannele Secchia, to you. Born in Ethiopia to German and Finnish parents, she lived there for most of her developmental years. Hannele repatriated twice to England at ages six and eleven and spent her high school years at boarding school in Kenya. At eighteen, she moved to England to study and whilst there, met her Italian/South African husband. They lived in England until 2009 before moving back to Ethiopia where they are now raising four of their own Third Culture Kids (TCKs). I met Hannele, an HR manager currently based in Addis Ababa, at the recent Families in Global Transition (FIGT) Conference in The Hague. As a first time attendee, here she shares her reflections about the conference and being part of a very unique sector of our global community.
“When my colleague, Steph, asked me last year, to join her at the 2017 FIGT Conference, I had no idea what to expect. I just knew it fitted well with what I was hoping to do in the future – expatriate care in Ethiopia. I bit the bullet, registered, booked the flights and the hotel, even though at that point Steph wasn’t sure if she would make it. I could do this even on my own, right? I was relieved when Steph was able to come after all – at least we’d get to spend time together, if nothing else.
A week before the conference, I considered cancelling as I had just been in Germany, away from the family two weeks previous and I was still recovering from the dizziness and nausea that accompanied a bout of flu. The thought of four more flights was not in the slightest appealing! Thankfully, I felt much better by the weekend before the conference.
As the Monday rolled around, the first selfie arrived on the conference Facebook page, accompanied by words of excitement and joy. As the selfies and expectation continued to build over the next couple of days, I commented to my husband on what a strange conference this must be… Never before had I seen people post selfies of themselves travelling to conferences with such a sense of palpable anticipation! I joined the selfie crew and posted a picture of Steph and me, the intrepid travellers, pulling our suitcases through the mud…
At first glance, the conference would have seemed like any other to the random passerby – registration desk, bookstore, plenary hall, breakout rooms and a room serving delicious food and drinks throughout the day to keep us going. Had that random passerby stopped to linger for a moment, however, they would have noticed how quick attendees were to introduce each other and how little reticence there was to take the plunge, introduce yourself and quickly find common ground to talk about. They would have observed the lack of niceties and pleasantries and the abundance of deep conversation as if attendees had known each other for more than just a minute. The exchange of business cards was a rapid affair and having returned from the conference, I have realised that the business cards I hold in my hand feel more like mementos from a special trip that link me to precious memories.
Another thing I quickly observed was that there was a core of people who were clearly the cogs of the organisation, making it happen. There were those with administrative gifts, those who held the the keys to history, those whose enthusiasm bubbled over the edges, those with the gift of putting thoughts onto paper, those with the gift of addressing large audiences and those with the critical thinking and analytical skills to gain an overview of this world of global transition. The attendees were as varied as the cogs, from writers to bloggers, to school administrators, to teachers, to researchers, to psychotherapists, to cultural experts, to trainers, to those just trying to find their niche in the world…
The depth of knowledge, experience, wisdom and understanding in this group of seemingly disparate people from across the globe was astounding and as the conference got underway, it was glaringly obvious that a common theme binds us all together and is stronger than any language or nationality. It is the theme of identity, of belonging. The conference provided a safe space for us all to be ourselves, to drop the masks so many of us wear from day to day, to explore who we are at the deepest level and to bring something to the table. It was clear that everyone had something to offer because we all have varied experiences, and stories to tell.
I was impressed with the level of professionalism of those in the room and of the conference itself. No expense had been spared to ensure that everything ran smoothly, that everyone was informed, that everyone was fed and watered, and this freed us up to concentrate on the real purpose of the conference – that of connecting;not only connecting with others, but with our inner selves to explore the recesses of our being and continue the work of understanding how a global lifestyle affects the individual.
The sessions were lovely and varied, with keynote speakers, interview panels, the fast-paced and impressive Ignite presentations, researchers presenting their findings and many break-out sessions to choose from, whether you were looking for information on TCKs, on schooling, on marriage in our context, on parenting, on psychotherapy and the list goes on. The Kitchen Table Conversations were a great idea, but with each table so well attended it was, at times, difficult to have meaningful discussion in the 30 minute window allocated.
For me personally, there was one particular “aha” moment, which explained a deep discomfort I had felt for a long time. There was also a chance to put things I had felt into words for the first time, as well as research to back up ‘gut feelings’ I had but couldn’t prove.
I have come away with the sense of having been on a deep spiritual journey and with that, the not-so-pleasant bump back to real life. Last night as I processed once again with my husband, the tears rolled down my face as I faced the enormity of the grief of all the lost things, but at least I now know more than ever that I am not alone on this journey. Although each of our stories is unique, there are others that have trod this path ahead of me and others who are walking alongside me, even if they are a continent away; people I can reach out to when I have a question, when I need to work through something, when I just need a virtual hand to hold.
I am filled with encouragement and hope at the thought of a community of people who will be at the forefront, leading the world into the increasingly global future. We can demonstrate to the world that it is possible to live in peace with one another, to celebrate each other’s differences, to work through the challenges of mobile people and come out stronger at the other end.”
You can see that Hannele’s journey from Ethiopia to The Hague has had a significant impact on her – one that will have a ripple effect on those with whom she lives, works and beyond.
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